VLOG | Hunting down skincare, happy mail, and why validation is so important!
hey you guys happy friday it’s about 8 20. i bet if i give you guys two guesses on where i’m going y’all can guess because when it’s a friday and it’s this early there’s only two places i go one is wesley’s vet and two is the dentist we’re actually on the way um on our way to my dentist because it’s my cleaning i feel like i just i go to the dentist way too often like i don’t even like my dentist why do i see them so much 8 30 we have a dental cleaning it’s just it’s fast i almost wanted to reschedule but it’s already been rescheduled twice and if i reschedule more than once i basically move into the second half of the year you know how you’re supposed to have a cleaning twice a year i’ll just have one a year so i know better i have to like force myself into these adulting type things so 8 30 i have a couple minutes to talk to you guys before that appointment yesterday we started virtual learning or distance learning or e-learning or whatever your district calls it but i really would have wished that they just postponed the school year and they started in september like when i was in school you start in the fall after labor day and then um you have summer break off they just went ahead and started um hold on a second it’s kind of hot in here can you guys hear me it’s okay i’ll tough it out for you guys um they didn’t decide to postpone the year which is so weird whatever you guys decided to do everyone’s family has struggled so hard with the decision of sending kids back to school or not well long story short we started distance learning yesterday both of my kids are under public school system curriculums which means both of them had to log in you know both of them are being up upheld under like truancy policies so it’s not something where you could just be like well we’ll figure it out no like you actually have to do it and it was so weird it was hard and confusing because you have two kids like i have two kids two different age groups and you you know you you see their zoom calls and the children that are there and it’s so different you have kids that literally just woke up and the mom’s like in a bathroom struggling trying to figure out technology because this is something that you’re not used to doing there’s other parents that are you know trying to get out the door trying to get to work and someone else is helping the child like maybe a tutor or a counselor a babysitter or something you know you have other parents that are on conference calls that are working and you see them in the background of these videos you have kids that are in daycare and so they’re trying to do school with their little face mask on and there’s kids running around everywhere i can’t imagine being a child and being under this high stress situation and still being held responsible to learn whatever the curriculum is for that school year i mean we are for sure beyond a shadow of a doubt all experiencing some form of low-grade trauma you know what i mean like it’s just so i don’t know how i’m gonna do it for the next few weeks i know we do have the option to do face to face um and it’s what we decided to do but the whole plan is the first four weeks will be distance learning and then if you selected face-to-face education or learning then you go back to school but i would imagine that after a couple of weeks someone’s going to get sick and they’re probably going to close their school down again for a few weeks or even longer which means we go back to distance learning so it’s just one of those things where i have to be mentally prepared to have to teach two curriculums to my own kids um for this school year and that’s okay i can i can manage it but i just have to really hunker down and make a new routine for myself which means i am going to have to start working probably nights you know doing this at night doing editing at night so if there is a caffeine shortage or maybe a disappearance of amphetamines do not come check at my house because this one’s gonna need them um but anyway so this weekend i have a lot of work to do um we’re gonna do the dentist today i have to go to ulta then i have to what else do i have to do um i have to go to therapy at four tomorrow i have to work all day and then sunday sunday ideally i wanted to go see a house that um recently went up for sale that is so amazing but i don’t want to drink so so i’m not going to talk about it yet um i’m going the back way to my dentist which is why it looks weird i didn’t get lost you guys i don’t have a secret apartment it’s gonna be a very busy weekend but not exciting busy it’s just gonna be a lot of work for me to do uh parker um has his girls so they’re gonna be on that side of town for the majority of the weekend probably the all the weekend the whole weekend whatever anyway but that’s it nothing too exciting um i feel like i needed to update you guys on something what was it it was like oh my god when i vlog i’m gonna update the pandas on x y and z don’t remember what it was but that’s okay if i think about it i’ll check back in you guys it is 9 30.
let me turn off my air okay so are any of you guys this is gonna we’re gonna be the minority in this conversation right now but i need this minority to come in strong for me the minority is those of us that are always cold that is me so right now texas is under heat advisory because we’ve had like i don’t know how many 100 over 100 degree days um in a row and i’m okay with it like i’m i’m perfectly perfectly okay with it um i’m always cold and so i do this thing on my car um like my car conditioner where i leave it at 72 and on auto so that it’s comfortable you know it’s like um it’s like cool enough but it’s not cold where you get like goosebumps but because it’s 100 degrees outside it takes a little longer to cool my car and then the amount of time that it takes to cool my car i get cold first world problems so are any of you guys in that minority where you’re always cold and you feel personally victimized by the auto setting in your car because i do the reason that i’m checking in with you guys right now after my dentist appointment is because i have some good news and some bad news the bad news is that i have wanted a big hunk it’s a candy bar for those of you that are unfamiliar i wanted a big hunk for the last three weeks and i’ve gone to three different places in the last few days not necessarily today just randomly like if i needed to go do um some grocery shopping i’ll take a peek right now um i popped into a cvs because i needed to pick up a prescription took a peek so three different places in my convenient radius uh nobody has a big hunk so i was like well this sucks and i probably shouldn’t be looking into getting a giant nougat candy bar after i leave the dentist which two pieces of good news the first news is no cavities nothing’s wrong with my teeth my teeth are looking amazing everything’s fine business as usual they try to sell me on orthodontics i always say no they say i’m gonna regret it because i have crowding and i’m like because i have my four wisdom teeth and i have to say for me to have all four wisdom teeth and they’re all healthy and there’s nothing wrong with them and they’re not dirty and they don’t have like weird build up on them and the the build-up i mean the the crowding it’s not it’s not really oh it’s not crowding like i could still get floss in there but they really want me to they really want me to get that orthodontics stitch taken care of so i left cvs i was really disappointed that i didn’t um find my big hunk so i crossed over into jack-in-the-box because if you guys haven’t had a sourdough breakfast jack you’re missing out on life i think it’s a california thing because i really like jack-in-the-box except their tacos i don’t know what if you are team jack-in-the-box tacos i really don’t think we could be friends in real life they’re very nasty so i crossed over to jack in the box even though i shouldn’t because i have florida on my teeth right now but whatever the story for another day and the woman is like honey let me tell you i told that man you best not look up my register because the last time you did that it was locked up for six hours and by golly let me tell you what do you think he done did and i was like oh i am so invested in this story you need to fit and i was like what did he do i’m like trying to give her my card when someone is like that with me and they treat me like a friend i jump into the roll and i take it very seriously and i was like what did he do and she’s like he locked at my register and i was like did you hit him i hope you hit him she starts laughing she’s like can you believe it she’s like i’m so mad i’m gonna give you your breakfast for free and i was like no no you don’t have to do that can you use another one of the registers and she’s like what do you think he did he locked up those two and i was like dang man i was like but are we really surprised her name was loretta i was like are we really surprised loretta i was like it’s 20 20 and she’s like and she goes you’re right she gave me my breakfast and i left so i got free breakfast that i can’t eat yet until this fluoride stops being so weird so i don’t mean to brag but we’re kind of killing it this morning so we’re heading home i’m gonna eat my breakfast this floor is it’s terrible hey you guys it’s about 2 30.
i just got done filming this makeup look which is the exact i mean to the tea the exact makeup that i did on um our wedding day our elopement um and i wanted to record it for you guys because i get asked what lip color were you wearing and what eyeshadow palette did you use now this is a look that i’ve done very often it’s like my go-to makeup look i just i really like these products and i like them in combination and i thought they would be really good for a look that i needed to kind of melt away gracefully throughout the day and if it didn’t it was totally fine as long as it lasted enough for the allotment and the you know it was it there wasn’t a lot of thought put into it there wasn’t a lot of thought put into the products i used it was just products that i love and i just decided to group them together they never let me down kind of thing you know um tried and trues oldies but goodies favorite anyway i filmed this as a get ready with me and then right now i have to film the hey by the way we’re married video for those of you guys that don’t follow us on instagram like the official announcement i want to show you guys your wedding album and the dress and all that stuff and then um at four o’clock i have therapy and it’s already 2 30.
so i just wanted to check in i wanted to say hey guys what’s up and um then get moving because we’re falling behind and i’m out of breath because i breath breath i’m out of breath because i ran upstairs so that’s it that’s all i got going on i’m not looking forward to therapy i haven’t been in like two weeks two and a half weeks because we were out of town i haven’t been to two and a half weeks and i just i have a yucky taste in my mouth like i’m in a good place right now and i don’t want to poke the bear you know what i’m saying do you guys feel like that if you’ve been therapized i say that word a lot it’s not a word i just don’t know how to turn therapy into a verb if you’ve been therapized for for a while you know that sometimes it you’re just nobody just being dramatic and this is why when people are like why bark collards it’s so savage it’s like because i have four dogs and they’re all barky they’re getting a break they get breaks from time to time they’re not always wearing them what was i telling you guys oh so if you do therapy you know what it’s like sometimes it feels like very physically and emotionally draining like if you’re just not up for it it could totally ruin your day your weekend your next couple days it just it’s very exhausting and you sit there and you talk which you would think i’m a pro at but sometimes you walk out and you’re just like i’m sucking at life what am i doing what is life hey you guys all right it’s almost six o’clock do you remember when i told you guys earlier today that i feel personally victimized by um being cold by my air conditioning well apparently it’s running so hard because today is the hottest day of the year so you’re not letting me down you’re doing your job i’m just being a whiny all right so i left therapy today was one of those sessions that was super helpful do you remember i was like i don’t want to go to therapy it ruins my mood it’s the worst so today was a session that needed to happen i didn’t realize needed to happen and it was so good one thing that happened out of it was something i wasn’t expecting which is what i’m going to talk to you guys about and then the other thing i was like okay i know i know i could do better i could do better i’m working on it simpson i’m working on it oh my gosh you guys speaking of susan i got a message the other day on instagram because i was talking about how it infuriates me when people post stuff on their instagram stories with the felter they’re like hey buy this sweater it’s the most beautiful lavender you’ve ever seen in your life i’m like listen that sweater doesn’t look lavender it looks like a speckled teal because you have a filter on it that you think looks artsy but it really just doesn’t show what you’re trying to show me and it’s making me unreasonably rangy and so part of like the the the dialogue that i wrote down in my rant was like no one can see what you’re talking about susan and so someone direct messaged me and said hi my name is susan and i really i really find the jokes funnier when they’re about my sister karen it made me laugh for like an hour so apparently there is a susan that has a sister named karen and both of these poor women with these names get personally victimized every day by just having that name now i grew up in a community where you called people jose and maria for everything and so i know what it’s like culturally that it’s not a big deal but i can also see how it can hurt people’s feelings so i can see both points so i can also be like it’s not that big of a deal like we call people marie and jose all the time you know but when you really dissect it and you break it down it’s like well it’s actually pretty rude so um where was i going with this uh susan the filter uh therapy okay so today in therapy i realized how basic i am due to my upbringing how i was raised what i’ve learned all that stuff the reason that i became best friends with sam instantly i figured out the reason the catalyst the motivator the reason why sam and i hit it off like this immediately was because sam does this thing that we as humans tend to skip so talking to my therapist as humans we’re so simple right something happens then we need it to be validated then we can heal from it but most of the time in our relationships something happens and then when we share people jump in to fix it they jump in as a fixer because they want to make the pain go away they want to make it go away they want to move on right and so if i tell someone well this is this is making me sad this is worrying me this is giving me anxiety they automatically jump into fixing it i want to make it better but as humans we’re so simple that we want someone in that in between step that says man it sucks that you feel that sad like i totally understand why that’s going on or what did that say to you i’m gonna go fuck her up you know like you want that connection with the person so when i met sam even before we met physically when we were just digital friends she always had that in between step where she acknowledges what you’re feeling do you remember you guys a couple of vlogs ago that i told you my garbage disposal broke well a couple years ago my garbage disposal broke i sat on the kitchen floor and i cried and what did sam do she sat on the floor with all the garbage disposal gunk sat with me and was like all right well we’re just gonna sit here and she literally said you guys i’ll never forget man make some room for me i want to sit next to you and she sat there in the garbage disposal gunk kept me company acknowledged that this was time and that we would get through it when i was ready to and so i challenge you guys to revisit your relationships revisit your romantic partnership revisit your best friendship revisit your relationship with your mom any relationship your co-worker you know uh your boss revisit all of those connections you have with humans in your life do you jump to fix-it mode or do you take the time to hold their heart when they’re feeling heavy because that step is so important and i really hope and i pray to god that as i raise my children and my bonus daughters that i’m able to instill that value in them that when someone is hurting when someone is sad when someone is happy when anybody comes to you with any feeling you share that feeling with them before you jump into fixing it or providing a solution or giving advice you take that moment to to hold their feelings for them for a little bit like with them it’s so important and when i made that connection today i was like this is why sam is so important to me this is why she’s so special and why it was so easy to connect with her instantly because never in my 28 years of life had i ever had a connection like that with someone not with my ex-husband not with my mom not with my boss with anybody i’ve never had that connection where they instantly know to sit in your pain to sit in your happiness to sit in your sadness and then help you and then ask do you want advice do you want help do you want to go murder i never had that happen and so sam has that key missing component or element that is so important in really important relationships or rather in all relationships really um so special shout out to sam i know a lot of you guys have asked about her it’s like why don’t you talk about sam anymore i was like well because we talk almost every day but corona so i haven’t seen her in a year actually when you guys see this vlog it’s probably going to be her birthday her birthday is on august 21st we just pulled into a shopping center that has an ulta because i am looking for this specific bliss product that i want to try because using a mask all the time has congested my skin beyond belief and so the products that i use in my skincare routine are all pretty good exfoliators like my my my toner exfoliates my serum exfoliates my night cream exfoliates like everything that i use exfoliates my cleanser exfoliates everything that i use exfoliates but none of it is decongestive or decongests my skin none of it purifies my pores like you would think okay it’s a cleanser so it’s supposed to purify your pores but not necessarily there’s certain products that you want to look for um when you’re trying to really decongest your pores to make your skin breathe and right now that i’m suppressing my skin under a mask every time i have to go out my skin’s not having it she’s like not cool gotta do something about this so she’s being she’s being very reactive and i’m not okay with it so um are you going or not no okay so we are at ulta because i tracked down this product that i want to check out it is a toner from bliss that is not only cruelty free and vegan but it is a toner that is specifically designed to decongest your pores and also shrink them in size listen if you’re a product that’s going to tone my skin decongest my pores and also shrink the pore size i’m willing to take that risk i want to find out for myself so supposedly this ulta has it in stock so we’re going to buy it but before we do that i need to put on my mask you guys want to see how cute my mask is look at this oh snap it matches my outfit so we’re at ulta we’re gonna get this toner and it just so happens that this ulta is in the same shopping center as the ramen place that i like which means i might as well get some udon noodles to go guys mission accomplished i got the bliss clear genius clarifying gel cleanser and this is like the trigger product this is what brought me into the store this is the clear genius clarifying toner in serum so this is look how thick it is isn’t that cool so this is a product that is supposed to help with skin congestion um it’s supposed to shrink your pore size and it also has salicylic acid which is awesome because it helps fight you know like breakouts my skin is sensitive like i can’t do benzoyl peroxide and i don’t allow benzoyl peroxide in my home because it bleaches everything um it’s it’s just not good it’s super strong you know i mean not for this like it’s not it’s way too dramatic for for what i’m suffering with so i went in to find this little guy um and i was like well i’m already here i might as well get the cleanser too i’m actually parked outside the ramen place because they said my order would be ready in 15 minutes i don’t think so i mean the broth is just sitting there right and they just need to like dunk the noodles in it actually i don’t even think they put the noodles in it until i get home because it’s a to-go order let’s go find out guys seven o’clock i just got the dogs settled they went potty they had their pills they’re eating dinner currently you guys hear them they’re currently eating their dinner now i’m gonna eat my dinner and before i’m able to finish i have to give leslie as insulin this is why i always have to rush home so definitely having to rush home and take care of them it’s important because if i don’t tend to wesley at a very specific time all the time then it just throws them off so it’s in everyone’s best interest just keep them on target so i’m a little bit behind right now but i wanted to show you guys the udon they did such a good job presenting it usually when you get takeout like when i order pho take out like you have to use your own bowl you have to like you have to fend for yourself they put something in a box and something in a container and that’s it you fend for yourself um the udon this place ramen hokkaido did such a good job so they put it in a bowl already and it’s all displayed just like when you’re actually eating god bless you missy hey are you investigating what’s going on you can’t eat this ernie down thank you so they down do not do not they plate it just like when you go into the restaurant this is exactly what it looks like except with their really cool you know dishes and then they put the broth in a container you know i don’t like when you don’t listen to your mama what are you doing you can’t have this no ma’am no ma’am these containers we get them from the restaurant and i always put them in the dishwasher and then keep them and they’re great for like getting ice out of the ice maker drinking water they’re really handy i also use it to heat up broth when i’m making rice or like the dog’s food so anyway super handy oh you know what i should do is i should do one of those cool seriously i should do one of those like super sexy pour over shots you know like slow motion tell me the truth did you enjoy that did you enjoy it as much as i did because it smells really good anyway i gotta finish up with the dogs i gotta eat dinner um but i think that’s it for tonight i really need to wash my face like my face is like i’m not used to wearing this much makeup can you please go wash your face and i’m excited to try that new toner and i’m also excited to use a new cleansing balm that i got as pr the other day so we’ll see how that baby melts everything off this face taking off your makeup is the equivalent of taking off your bra or taking off your heels after a long day am i right hey you guys happy saturday it’s about two o’clock so today’s i’m sorry am i bothering you today’s been kind of a slow day i spent the majority of the morning editing my content for monday and answering your comments on this weekend’s vlog this weekend vlog was a little triggering for some people which is okay but it’s usually it usually happens in vlogs where i don’t expect anything in the vlog to be triggering so it was a little weird but it’s okay because it was a good vlog you guys the majority of you seem to enjoy it which is nice on monday i’m posting my wedding announcement video it’s not really like a big announcement or anything but i really wanted to make sure that i covered my lip color the masks where i got them the dress and all of that stuff so that video is going up on monday when you see this vlog it’s already live that’s what i spent the majority of the morning today editing i just got back from doing a grocery pick up from walmart and i came home to really awesome packages so a couple weeks ago one of you guys left me a comment and said that the limited edition summer scents of the native deodorants were amazing and you did not steer me wrong whoever you were you delicious panda i ordered one of each scent to try them out you guys know vanilla coconut is my favorite scent so when i heard there was like an apple one a peach one and a pink cactus or a pear cactus or whatever um scented one i had to try and i couldn’t wait i already smelled them and they smell freaking delicious so i got the it’s like a build your own multi-pack or whatever and these are the three newest scents cactus flower and poppy apple and honeysuckle and sweet peach and nectar i can’t decide which one’s my favorite i think this one’s the more unique one i love all of them they all smell delicious i don’t think any of them are exclusionary fragrances you know how like patchouli not everyone’s gonna like patchouli um i think they’re all very friendly fragrances but probably this one’s my favorite which i’m super happy that on a whim listening to you guys i ordered the mini size this is like the perfect size to carry in your purse if you need to reapply because it is a natural deodorant or if you’re going to go out of town and you want like a travel size of it it’s the cutest let me see if i can open it with one hand it’s the cutest little thing ever look how little it is it’s perfect isn’t it i mean you’re not going to use this much deodorant it’s going to last you quite a bit so this option is also a really good size to try if you’re looking to make the change target has the classic scents in this size in the travel section i believe and they’re three dollars so anyway i got the three pack and then i also ordered i always order these three months at a time so i’ll order three of the um biotin supplements and so this is i’ll do this four times a year so three months four times a year i place the order and they’re pretty pricey but i feel like when i order three at a time it gives me enough time to plan to reorder and i don’t ever run out because this is one of those things that you don’t necessarily want to take a break from because you do notice the difference right away so yeah i needed to restock these and the code that i told you guys about the briochio code 20 off danny it still works and you can use it you just can’t use that 20 on a subscription so if i wanted to order these on automatic shipment every two months three months or whatever on on a subscription base i can’t use the promo code so if i order them individually or if you guys order them individually you can use that promo code still so oh you guys look at this my friend martha sent me this how cute is that it’s a pineapple look is that adorable do you guys remember last week i told you we went to our p.
o box but the main office was closed so any packages that don’t fit in my actual po box they hold behind um the counter and i have to wait till they’re open so this was there it’s a wax melter so um you guys remember her little wedgies like her wax melts or like her wax wedgies these are what they look like and so this is what you would put in something like that do you guys see the waxes in there this is a genius idea because for example i’ll walk into my kitchen and ta-da it smells good but you also this isn’t something that i would recommend for those of you that have homes with small children or put putting them low to the ground um because it is it’s waxed you see the liquid wax in there anyway so it’s a super happy mail day and this here is a special uh message for my panda candice who actually asked about my wedding band so um let me see if i can prop you guys up so i talked about i talked about something in my vlog that i posted today from last weekend i talked about something and she said um oh i said we got married it was like the announcement video well unofficial announcement video and she asked if i would show you guys my um wedding ring they’re dirty so fyi they’re dirty um if you guys ever wanted to see a close-up that’s what they what they look like they are very simple i think they’re more on the dainty side and they don’t have stones that go all the way around i am a fan of gold like yellow gold not white gold and so i wanted to make sure to incorporate that so that’s a close-up of what they look like i really like this little guy because on its own it’s so dainty and so fine and so beautiful and i think it’s one of those kind of timeless pieces it is a custom the custom setting from jared the galleria of jewelers it is custom but it was cheaper to do the custom than to buy a pre-made setting isn’t that weird so we went ahead and did the custom which was cool because my fingers are so skinny we didn’t need to resize anything which is a fee on top of the setting already so it was so bizarre and i really like it a lot of you guys commented about um having stones all the way around the band and we talked about it on instagram already but the jewelers don’t recommend that you put stones all the way around because throughout the life of the ring you will need to resize it whether it’s making it smaller or bigger but when a ring has stones all the way around you basically have to melt it down completely or ruin some of the stones to re resize the ring or you have to re-cut stones and you can’t find the same size and stuff like that so it’s a lot easier to just do stones on the front half and then the other thing was beads pudding beads the other solution was putting beads on the inside of a band so there’s this cool jewelers technique which i actually had in my original wedding set the first time i got married and i hated it they put two two precious metal or of the same metal of your band they’ll put two metal beads on the inside like sticking in and so they make the band bigger than your ring size but then they put the beads on the inside so there’s some sense of flexibility when it comes to the fit of the ring so whether you’re swollen or skinny or cold or gain weight or lose weight the rings always hang on because they have those little beads on the inside like grippies anyway so it’s been a productive morning for me but it would have been a boring morning for y’all which is why i didn’t vlog um i’m excited to post that video on monday at the very end of it i show you guys our wedding album i was able to kind of record every page of it and put it at the end of the vlog so hopefully you guys will get a kick out of that parker and the girls are actually coming over later today and they are spending the night and while saying that out loud to you guys might sound weird it is our dynamic right now it is kind of like our family situation we are looking for our perfect family home a home that will be kind of our home the six of us and the process of looking for homes and offers and just finding your perfect home for six different personalities isn’t hard it’s just a lot of work so um we are taking our time and we’re enjoying the process and that’s kind of where we’re at right now so it’s a lot easier the current setting and dynamic that we’re working right now is what works for our family at the moment so while a lot of people tend to have strong opinions about it it’s what we’re doing and it’s temporary you know like most things in life everything is temporary and if it’s something really really really really bad well it’s temporary and if it’s something really really really really good it’s also temporary nothing lasts forever so it’s just what we’re doing right now and they wanted to come over i don’t know if they want to cook dinner or if they want to make dinner i already told them that today is not passing that i don’t get a giant ice cream cone that was my only request you know the other thing too is my buzzfalls package came in you guys they sent me a box in the mail with like five buzz balls in it just five random flavors in there and so i took the box directly like the the direct box i just put it and i threw it in the fridge and i was like the next time parker and i have some down time we’re gonna taste these and i think we should taste them in front of you guys i mean in all fairness you know like if i went on my favorites video and i publicly talked about how the buzz balls that we bought originally tasted like sumo wrestler fart then the least i can do is try these other flavors and either stand firm in my review or you know eat my words which is fine i’ve never been opposed to saying hey guys i’m sorry i was wrong i’ve never there’s no ego here so hopefully i’m wrong so that i don’t ever have to experience a donkey kicking me or a sumo wrestler farting in my mouth again you know and you’ll never understand that joke unless you saw that video